My Pride Before a Fall

Firstly, Just a quick thanks to all those that read my first blog post and also those I have spoken to about my blog! It’s been great to chat to people about their perceptions of turning 40 or hitting the Mid life stage…..
A few weeks ago I went to see ‘The Greatest Showman’ at the cinema, I love musical theatre and as a young boy I was taken to see ‘Barnum’ and expected to see a film similar to the stage show. I was however surprised when I sat down and started watching, as this film was based on Barnum’s life but was very different. I was totally taken aback by the film, one of the best I think I have seen for a long time with a sound track that has been played and played over and over again in our house.
Looking at Barnum’s life and the many struggles and successes, he went through including relationships, work, business and family. Some would criticise him for his weaknesses and some would praise him for hanging on in and making a success of things. What is one man’s success can be another’s failure….
In my 39 years so far I have had ups and downs, successes and struggles and often wondered why we struggle through some situations but as Kelly Clarkson sang ‘ What doesn’t kill you make you stronger’. Sometimes getting to the end of a tough period and being able to just look back and say you did achieved just getting through that, can be a strength in itself.


Another one of my Favourite Musical numbers is ‘Season of love’ from Rent the musical


Some of the Lyrics of this song are:
Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes,
Five hundred twenty five thousand journeys to plan,
Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes,
How do you measure the life of a woman or a man?

In truth that she learned,
Or in times that he cried?
In the bridges he burned,
Or the way that she died?

It’s time now, to sing out,
Though the story never ends.
Let’s celebrate, remember a year,
In the life of friends.
Whenever I hear this song it really resonates with me in terms of how I spend my time, not necessarily as minutes and hours as the song suggests but as periods of my life. When you look back on life and reflect what have been the high and low times it more often involved close friends and family maybe a successful proud achievement or a time where you have struggled and had to pull together with others.
Recently at a church service I was challenged to think of how to show Love to others, this can be through our actions and practical kindness but there is nothing like spending time with others we know, but also with strangers who sometimes just appreciate the time you invest in them and the love and encouragement you can show them.
In my late teens and early 20’s I had quite a few people who were probably in their 40’s at the time who encouraged me and coached me in different situations, personally and professionally. Looking back I still have huge admiration for them and they will never be aware the impact they have had on my life and shaping who I am
Watching ‘The Greatest Showman’, brought back memories of all those people and reminded me of days where I was determined and driven as a young man but also my ups and downs and people kept on investing time and energy into me.
I hope I do now, but especially as I get over the hill into my 40’s be able to invest time and energy and love into others to help them to realise and reach their potential, whether it is my own kids, friend s or those I don’t even know yet!



Our time is precious and valuable, but can be a treasure to others.


40/40 Challenge


So just after Christmas I had completed week 20 of my 40/40 Challenge and after walking over 100,000 steps a week over that period I decided I would start to try and jog. Now anyone that knows me will know I have never really run, My Mum’s Moto was ‘Why run when you can walk?’ I have taken that mantra to heart over the years.
Anyway I started to jog and as my fitness has been raised, I found it easier than I thought I would, Within a few weeks or so I had managed a 5Km run and was amazed and very proud of how I had ran that distance.


‘Pride before a fall’


While I was getting into the swing of running, my pride was getting bigger due to my achievements and in my head I thought I could do anything! So one night I set off on a run and felt great and thought maybe I could stretch it a little and so just kept running!
To my amazement I was hitting 8km then 9km and then approaching the 10km mark, At that point I then felt my foot slide against something and I could feel myself in slow motion falling to the ground and then BANG!!! I was on the pavement!
This was right in front of a bus full of people and all I could think about was ‘how embarrassing’ but at least I might have hit the 10km mark, so got up quickly and kept walking away from everyone staring at me out of the bus! May I just say at this point, no one, not even the driver checked I was ok?
After the bus went I quickly looked at my tracker and it said I had only done 9.2km and believe it or not it had stopped working a while before my fall so I could not record a 10km run. I was absolutely gutted, in fact I was more upset with not recording the 10km than the fact I had hurt my chest and possible damaged my ribs as I crippled away!
This really brought me back to that old saying ‘Pride before a fall’ as I was wanting to achieve the 10km as I was so proud of what I had achieved so quickly that I was not looking properly in front of me to see the little kerb that tripped me up!
I had to have about two weeks break from my jogging to recover a bit but this week I was happy to get back into Jogging. So much so I did achieve my first 10km run and it was recorded! What a personal achievement and I am so happy that my general fitness is now at a stage I can even think about trying to get this type of achievement


Through both ‘The Greatest Showman’ and my ‘Pride before my fall’ you can see life is full of ups and downs. No one’s life is straight forward and full of only successes and highs and that’s what makes life interesting, but what is important is how we grow and mature. I hope wherever you are in life you can look to the future, but be thankful and learn from your past.


Still 39yearsoldandcounting……..


Ps Dad Joke – I tried to catch some fog…………..BUT I MIST


What’s ahead in 2018!

So here we are in Blog World, does this mean I can call myself a blogger, well I suppose this is my first new experience as I turn 40 during 2018.

Today I have woken up to snow and ice here in Stirling , as I was having my medicinal coffee to kick start the day, I was looking up at a snowy Wallace Monument (picture above) and just contemplating the history of Scotland. William Wallace  never get to be 40 as he died at 35 so never had to consider a potential Mid life Crisis….

Well what will turning 40 really mean? I have not thought about it a huge amount but everyone around me seems to think it will have some effect on me with constant comments like:

‘Do you think you will have a Midlife Crisis or have you started it already?
Are you having a big party to celebrate?
It’s only downhill from here!
40 – It’s only a number!

All of these comments make becoming 40 feel like a big life changing moment or for some a crisis point in life.

Some people say they love being 40 yet others fear it terribly.

As a 39 year old man with a great wife and 2 daughters I wonder if it will really have any impact at all on my life or if it will pass me by just like any other year and birthday?

My Midlife Musings

If I am truly honest, due to the people around me mentioning it and asking how I feel about it? I have thought a little about this mid-life stage I am at and over the last few months wondered how it would take shape.

I was unfortunate to have pneumonia last June and I think this took more out of me than I thought in terms of energy and stamina, I noticed this especially once the infection had gone and I was over the worst. Yet I found decision making, concentration and focus really difficult for a few weeks.

As I lay in hospital and doctors and medics spoke with me about my condition, it did make me start to think about my mortality a little and review my life so far! (ok sounds heavy and depressing..But all is well now!)

With No stamina and energy physically , this alone made me stop for a while and think  where I was in life, what was important to me, what had I achieved so far and made me asses many things for example did I have a balance in life between, work, family, health, downtime etc, (I think Life Balance seems to be the IN phrase currently!)

I am not sure I came to any great or significant findings, but it did make me stop and appreciate the blessings I do have; a great and supportive family, good health generally, a supportive work environment and not to many things to worry about ( although there is always something in the worry box!)

I think the key thing for me after this time was to be thankful for what I have and not to focus on what I don’t have. To be very thankful for general good health and always make the most of everything!

The BIG 4-0

In thinking about turning 40 there is obviously the celebratory things like parties, meals, presents, cards and gatherings, but more significantly will anything change?

People often say men can get a bit grumpier, a little more inward and even a little anti social and less patient ( or is that just what people have said to me?) the many questions I have about entering Mid life would include:

Will it change my personality?
Will it make me question life?
Will it change my relationships?
Will it impact my Faith?
Will I become Wiser?
Will I have a Midlife Crisis?
Will I become even grumpier?

I am not quite sure what life will be like come December 2018, but one thing I know is that I need to look forward to what’s a head, and not be fearful or anxious about it. I just need to remember the phrase ‘ Carpe Diem’ and seize the moment!

The 40/40 Challenge

So one thing that has changed since my pneumonia along with the thought of coming to mid life, is my general health. I have always been a heavy shape and size. I have always been active, but general fitness maybe needed to be improved or should I say significantly improved.

Last August I started on a walking challenge and found I really enjoyed it, not just because I was active going out for a walk, but surprisingly I also found it was really good for my mind and processing thoughts and actions of that day, helped the planning for the next day ahead. I found spending a few moments to focus in fresh air was just what I needed; I think this is what is now known as my wellbeing!

On one of my 10k step walks I decided I would set myself a challenge and call it the 40/40 Challenge, it meant I had to set myself a goal to lose 40lbs in 40 weeks before I will be 40!

I have been quite focused on this towards the end of 2017 and hope you can encourage and support this journey I am on in 2018.

For those who loves stats: So far as I am 50% through my 40/40 Challenge, I have walked over 2.1 million steps, walked over 1500 Kilometres and had 13,000 active minutes keeping my heart rate above normal. All this has to be good for me, right?

As I launch into 2018, thanks for following my journey and I hope as I post I can encourage you wherever you are in life and you can support me during 2018.

Still 39yearsoldandcounting……..

Ps. Dad Joke time: What do you call an Elephant in a phone box?……………….STUCK!

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