Firstly, Just a quick thanks to all those that read my first blog post and also those I have spoken to about my blog! It’s been great to chat to people about their perceptions of turning 40 or hitting the Mid life stage…..
A few weeks ago I went to see ‘The Greatest Showman’ at the cinema, I love musical theatre and as a young boy I was taken to see ‘Barnum’ and expected to see a film similar to the stage show. I was however surprised when I sat down and started watching, as this film was based on Barnum’s life but was very different. I was totally taken aback by the film, one of the best I think I have seen for a long time with a sound track that has been played and played over and over again in our house.
Looking at Barnum’s life and the many struggles and successes, he went through including relationships, work, business and family. Some would criticise him for his weaknesses and some would praise him for hanging on in and making a success of things. What is one man’s success can be another’s failure….
In my 39 years so far I have had ups and downs, successes and struggles and often wondered why we struggle through some situations but as Kelly Clarkson sang ‘ What doesn’t kill you make you stronger’. Sometimes getting to the end of a tough period and being able to just look back and say you did achieved just getting through that, can be a strength in itself.
Another one of my Favourite Musical numbers is ‘Season of love’ from Rent the musical
Some of the Lyrics of this song are:
Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes,
Five hundred twenty five thousand journeys to plan,
Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes,
How do you measure the life of a woman or a man?
In truth that she learned,
Or in times that he cried?
In the bridges he burned,
Or the way that she died?
It’s time now, to sing out,
Though the story never ends.
Let’s celebrate, remember a year,
In the life of friends.
Whenever I hear this song it really resonates with me in terms of how I spend my time, not necessarily as minutes and hours as the song suggests but as periods of my life. When you look back on life and reflect what have been the high and low times it more often involved close friends and family maybe a successful proud achievement or a time where you have struggled and had to pull together with others.
Recently at a church service I was challenged to think of how to show Love to others, this can be through our actions and practical kindness but there is nothing like spending time with others we know, but also with strangers who sometimes just appreciate the time you invest in them and the love and encouragement you can show them.
In my late teens and early 20’s I had quite a few people who were probably in their 40’s at the time who encouraged me and coached me in different situations, personally and professionally. Looking back I still have huge admiration for them and they will never be aware the impact they have had on my life and shaping who I am
Watching ‘The Greatest Showman’, brought back memories of all those people and reminded me of days where I was determined and driven as a young man but also my ups and downs and people kept on investing time and energy into me.
I hope I do now, but especially as I get over the hill into my 40’s be able to invest time and energy and love into others to help them to realise and reach their potential, whether it is my own kids, friend s or those I don’t even know yet!
Our time is precious and valuable, but can be a treasure to others.
So just after Christmas I had completed week 20 of my 40/40 Challenge and after walking over 100,000 steps a week over that period I decided I would start to try and jog. Now anyone that knows me will know I have never really run, My Mum’s Moto was ‘Why run when you can walk?’ I have taken that mantra to heart over the years.
Anyway I started to jog and as my fitness has been raised, I found it easier than I thought I would, Within a few weeks or so I had managed a 5Km run and was amazed and very proud of how I had ran that distance.
‘Pride before a fall’
While I was getting into the swing of running, my pride was getting bigger due to my achievements and in my head I thought I could do anything! So one night I set off on a run and felt great and thought maybe I could stretch it a little and so just kept running!
To my amazement I was hitting 8km then 9km and then approaching the 10km mark, At that point I then felt my foot slide against something and I could feel myself in slow motion falling to the ground and then BANG!!! I was on the pavement!
This was right in front of a bus full of people and all I could think about was ‘how embarrassing’ but at least I might have hit the 10km mark, so got up quickly and kept walking away from everyone staring at me out of the bus! May I just say at this point, no one, not even the driver checked I was ok?
After the bus went I quickly looked at my tracker and it said I had only done 9.2km and believe it or not it had stopped working a while before my fall so I could not record a 10km run. I was absolutely gutted, in fact I was more upset with not recording the 10km than the fact I had hurt my chest and possible damaged my ribs as I crippled away!
This really brought me back to that old saying ‘Pride before a fall’ as I was wanting to achieve the 10km as I was so proud of what I had achieved so quickly that I was not looking properly in front of me to see the little kerb that tripped me up!
I had to have about two weeks break from my jogging to recover a bit but this week I was happy to get back into Jogging. So much so I did achieve my first 10km run and it was recorded! What a personal achievement and I am so happy that my general fitness is now at a stage I can even think about trying to get this type of achievement
Through both ‘The Greatest Showman’ and my ‘Pride before my fall’ you can see life is full of ups and downs. No one’s life is straight forward and full of only successes and highs and that’s what makes life interesting, but what is important is how we grow and mature. I hope wherever you are in life you can look to the future, but be thankful and learn from your past.
Ps Dad Joke – I tried to catch some fog…………..BUT I MIST